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Look Inside. Have you ever wished your partner came with an instruction booklet? For their controversial new book on the differences between the way men and women think and communicate, Barbara and Allan Pease spent three years traveling around the world, collecting the dramatic findings of new research on the brain, investigating evolutionary biology, analyzing psychologists, studying social changes, and annoying the locals.

The result is a sometimes shocking, always illuminating, and frequently hilarious look at where the battle line is drawn between the sexes, why it was drawn, and how to cross it.

Read this book and understand—at last! Allan Pease has written eleven bestselling books on the subject of human communication and body language, including, with his wife,… More about Allan Pease.

She divides her time… More about Barbara Pease. You will learn as much about yourself and how to improve your relationships as you will about the opposite sex. Brings Mars and Venus down to Earth! John Tickel, bestselling author of A Passion for Living. Start earning points for buying books! Uplift Native American Stories.

Add to Bookshelf. Just try again later. If you have a serious question, he might need time to think about his response. Ask your question and give him space. Then come back later. While men view conversation as a means to an end, some women not all just like to talk, and can go on and on without pausing. Instead, many men will just shut down. Relationship do: Remember that a conversation goes two ways.

Slow down, edit yourself and ask for feedback. Your girlfriend made you angry today. You know she means well, but how could she think that was the right thing to do? You want him to listen, nod his head, give you a hug and make you feel better. He can barely even follow your train of thought. Their responses might make you angry: Some men think listening to a rant means validating what they perceive as whining.

Men naturally respond to problems by trying to fix them, so if all you want is for him to listen, let him know. So remember to thank him for caring enough to hear and support you, Leahy says. And then, maybe switch to a lighter subject. Relationship do: Embrace your differences.

Strong relationships happen between people with different interests. You start out talking about one thing, and it reminds you of something else, so you launch into that topic, then another and so on.

Gender based humor shows up in a lot of entertainment. The reason I find it so angering in this book is that the Peases claim their information is all backed by science. And yet most of their conclusions are not backed by much data. They will do things like cite "a recent study" or throw out a statistic without actually giving any information about who performed the study, was it peer-reviewed, how was the study set up, etc. I also find it comical when they make claims that girls are mainly motivated by cooperation and you can't tell a leader in a group of women.

It makes me question whether the Peases ever set foot in a grade school. I certainly recall there being a pecking order with the girls that was at least as clear, if not more defined than that of the boys. View all 8 comments. Aug 20, David Rubenstein rated it it was amazing Shelves: psychology , biology.

What a fun book! This book by the well-known authors Barbara and Allan Pease is controversial perhaps, but well-grounded in new research. Parts of the book are absolutely hilarious, but they all ring true. The basic hypothesis in this book is that the brains in men and women are organized differently. While morally, men and women are equal, they are not identical.

The wiring of our brains and the effects of hormones determine how we think and behave. The corpus callosum, the bundle of nerves whi What a fun book! In addition, some brain functions, like speech, are distributed between both sides of women's brains, but are isolated in one side of men's brains.

As a result, a woman's brains handle speech better. Also, women can perform true multi-tasking and multi-tracking, while men find it difficult. The book is illustrated with numerous cartoons. While many of the cartoons are exaggerated, each one points out a truism about differences between the way men and women think. Men's brains have evolved to help men with their main job; catch lunch. As a result, their think is more focused, and they have better spatial reasoning abilities.

This is especially true when a man's system is flush with testosterone. On the other hand, women's brains have evolved to aid their main job; to be nurturing. They are much better at communicating, and are better at multi-tasking. Women are also better at multi-tracking; keeping track of conversations about multiple topics simultaneously. One of the best aspects of this book, is that not only do the authors point out the differences between men and women, but a lot of very practical advice is given.

Both men and women are given advice about how to make allowances for the opposite sex. You see, people have been instilled with the idea that men and women are identical, and people think that others think along the same lines as themselves. But this just isn't true.

Men have big advantages spatial thinking, problem solving and women have big advantages communications, observation and intuition , simply due to the wiring of brains. I highly recommend this book; it is so fun, and contains so many pearls of wisdom that ring true. View all 7 comments. Aug 26, Jen rated it it was amazing Shelves: psychology. In our modern society, it is not politically correct to assume that men and women are anything but equal, and equality is defined as exactly the same.

Same desires, same goals, and same needs. Allan Pease and his wife Barbara write that this is anything but how it really is. Neither sex is superior to the other, but they assert we are unquestionably different. From an evolutionary psychology perspective, our brains have been wired for different priorities based upon thousands of years of unique In our modern society, it is not politically correct to assume that men and women are anything but equal, and equality is defined as exactly the same.

From an evolutionary psychology perspective, our brains have been wired for different priorities based upon thousands of years of unique responsibilities while ensuring the survival of the next generation.

Pease cites empirical research along with illustrative anecdotes. While mostly focused on heterosexual relationships, it also devotes a wonderful chapter to the biological basis for homosexuality as a natural phenomenon. Once we can logically explain these differences as the result of hardwired neurological developments, we can lessen the pressure on ourselves and our partner and accept one another as we are.

Also, reading this, it's critical to remember much of what is discussed is generalization and not indicative of every man and every woman.

Even if it's not their natural proclivity, men can learn to listen and be more sensitive with the women. Likewise, a woman can better learn to enjoy the male tendency to interpret "romance" as doing something practical for her. Inti dari buku ini adalah Ingetna kalo pagi2 bokap selalu treak2 nyari kaos kaki di tempat kaos kaki kalo mau tenis. Meskipun sudah ngaduk2 itu tempat kaos kaos kaki yang dicari tetep aja kaos kaki yang dicari gak ketemu. Dan masalah komunikasi antara laki2 dan perempuan yang sering menimbulkan "masalah" karena masing menginterpretasikannya secara berbeda.

Ingat, just joke aja, jangan ditanggapi terlalu serius yah.. How the Fight Start I asked my wife, "Where do you want to go for our anniversary? So I suggested, "How about the kitchen? My wife sat down on the couch next to me as I was flipping channels. She asked, 'What's on TV? When I got home last night, my wife demanded that I take her someplace expensive. So I took her to a gas station. And that's when the fight started My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary.

She said, 'I want something shiny that goes from 0 to in about 3 seconds. And then the fight started Intinya, joke diatas itu mengungkapkan kekurangpekaan laki2 dalam berkomunikasi dengan perempuan :D satu lagi deh, merujuk kejudul awalnya "Why Men Don't Listen" ada joke lain tentang laki2 yang berusaha "mendengar" To Be 6 Again A man asked his wife what she'd like for her birthday.

On the morning of her birthday, he got her up bright and early and off they went to a local theme park. What a day! Five hours later she staggered out of the theme park, her head reeling and her stomach upside down. Right to a McDonald's they went, where her husband ordered her a Happy Meal with extra fries and a refreshing chocolate shake. What a fabulous adventure! Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed. He leaned over and lovingly asked, "Well, dear, what was it like being six again?

Men are from earth. Women are from earth. So, deal with it. While you see it your way, Run the risk of knowing that our love may soon be gone. We can work it out, We can work it out. Think of what you're saying. You can get it wrong and still you think that it's all right.

Think of what I'm saying, We can work it out and get it straight, or say good night. Life is very short, and there's no time For fussing and fighting, my friend. I have always thought that it's a crime, So I will ask you once again.

Try to see it my way, Only time will tell if I am right or I am wrong. While you see it your way There's a chance that we might fall apart before too long.

In all other situations, a nod is all the conversation you need. View all 36 comments. According to this book, I am "more likely" to be a lesbian because I have a masculine brain. This book also supports evolution but says that "Nature wants us to procreate and uses powerful drugs to do so. And why does it have wants? The advice in this book is stupid.

The female author claims that she still has trouble finding her way home - yeah maybe because she is stupid not because she is female. None of the authors are psychologists or psychiatrists or ev According to this book, I am "more likely" to be a lesbian because I have a masculine brain. None of the authors are psychologists or psychiatrists or even sociologists. This book relys heavily on the caveman theory.

I cant believe the kind of books that become 1 nowadays. View 1 comment. Well, because I am a woman, so I learned lot of things about men from this book. And I got so much explanations why sometimes women like me just couldn't understand men. I think, men should read this book too. If they were reading this, good for them.

With this book, men would much more understand us. Like my boyfriend, he finds so much familiar things that happened between us in this book, and he said : "I understand you better than before, cause this book gave me how-to-think-wome Well, because I am a woman, so I learned lot of things about men from this book. Like my boyfriend, he finds so much familiar things that happened between us in this book, and he said : "I understand you better than before, cause this book gave me how-to-think-women-way.

Jun 02, Pierre rated it did not like it. It looks like the comments on this book are two-fold: people who hated it or who loved it. Personally, I think it was OK but does not deserve all the fuss about it. Some parts of the book ring true, some others don't really and a small portion of it sounds like unjustified bold statements. However, what justifies my choice of a 1-star rating is the lack of serious data behind it. Overall, although the way of thinking in this book may be right and some of the advice is quite sound, I was expecting It looks like the comments on this book are two-fold: people who hated it or who loved it.

As none of the arguments is linked to accessible results, as far as I am concerned, the author can raise any statement as truth without challenge. Some items are presented as logical by the arguments but with a bit of thoughts, you can quickly realise they do not add up at all. Funnily enough, reading this book helped me understand something totally different from its main topic: how some people can be made to believe anything if they do not challenge the author of the statements.

By constantly hammering the same statements, even without any proven serious data, the authors can make credulous people believe in this statement. This is not called information, this is called brain-washing, fundamentalism or religion. No mater how true the conclusions may be, the method used to write this book is wrong and is the same as the one used by the advocates of creationism or the absence of human-caused global warming.

As such, I would not recommend this book. Mar 14, Mario the lone bookwolf rated it really liked it Shelves: mixed. An entertaining attempt to explain different but ever closer together worlds Please note that I put the original German text at the end of this review.

Just if you might be interested. First of all, one should not expect a well-founded, too seriously realistic or even politically correct and from the gendering point perfect entertainment book, but should be prepared for a light and not very serious reading.

Moreover, then it is a frivolously innocent and winking reading fun from the springs of tw An entertaining attempt to explain different but ever closer together worlds Please note that I put the original German text at the end of this review.

Moreover, then it is a frivolously innocent and winking reading fun from the springs of two seminar sales professionals. Without paying much attention to scientific or psychological reasoning, things are presented as they are in many ways real.



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